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How to love your job (even if you hate it)

When I asked her “What’s the best part of your job?” she looked at me wistfully and said “Nothing, really.” She was smart, young, and creative, but somehow her spark had gone out. She told me she didn’t want it … Continue reading

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Discovering your purpose

Ask a roomful of people whether they think networking is important and everyone will knowingly nod. Now, ask them for the purpose of their network. Crickets. Most will be thinking “Networks have a purpose?” or, worse, “I don’t know, I’m … Continue reading

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What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

For most of my career, I’ve been afraid. As I approach 50, though, that fear is being replaced by something else. Not quite confidence and certainly not peace. It’s more a sense of fuck-it-I-need-to-do-something-that-matters-now. Here are 3 stories about fears … Continue reading

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How to ask for help

If leading with generosity is the best way to build your network, what do you do when you actually want something from someone? How do you reconcile being generous with being needy? I need help all the time. In the … Continue reading

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“How’s the book coming along?”

A difficult conversation with someone who cares about you can help you confront an uncomfortable truth. I’ve been writing a book for the past 18 months. My friends will ask “How’s the book coming along?” I’ll respond with some vague reply … Continue reading

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Guided mastery at work

Imagine you’re afraid of snakes. You don’t just dislike them. You’re so afraid that you can’t even walk on grass for fear a snake might be there. Like other phobias, the fear paralyzes you and the paralysis affects other parts … Continue reading

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A glimpse of rapture, a glimpse of peace

I was walking by myself on a pristine beach in Mexico. It was early morning and the sun hadn’t quite made it’s appearance yet. Looking out to where the expansive gray-blue sky met the grayer, bluer ocean, I could feel … Continue reading

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Approaching people who are smarter, busier, and more important than you

One of the reasons many of us don’t have larger networks is we’re uncomfortable approaching people we don’t know. Here, for example, is a comment on last week’s post about relationships: “It may sound stupid but the biggest impediment to … Continue reading

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Deepening relationships through contribution

A friend of mine is thinking of relocating to another city and was talking with me about finding a job there. “Do you think my boss would let me do my job from the new location? Or maybe there’s an … Continue reading

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The 5 elements of Working Out Loud

Recently, I was talking with my wife about Working Out Loud and the book that I’m publishing later this year. After a few minutes, she bluntly asked me: “So, is it just blogging?” Now, that’s one of those questions that … Continue reading

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