Category Archives: Self awareness and improvement

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

For most of my career, I’ve been afraid. As I approach 50, though, that fear is being replaced by something else. Not quite confidence and certainly not peace. It’s more a sense of fuck-it-I-need-to-do-something-that-matters-now. Here are 3 stories about fears … Continue reading

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A glimpse of rapture, a glimpse of peace

I was walking by myself on a pristine beach in Mexico. It was early morning and the sun hadn’t quite made it’s appearance yet. Looking out to where the expansive gray-blue sky met the grayer, bluer ocean, I could feel … Continue reading

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Approaching people who are smarter, busier, and more important than you

One of the reasons many of us don’t have larger networks is we’re uncomfortable approaching people we don’t know. Here, for example, is a comment on last week’s post about relationships: “It may sound stupid but the biggest impediment to … Continue reading

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“Brooklyn Castle”

I can’t stop thinking about “Brooklyn Castle”. It’s the story of young kids in a Brooklyn public school who’ve won more chess championships in the last decade than any school in the nation. Watch the movie on Netflix or DVD. … Continue reading

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A New Year’s resolution: Take control of your career

Reflect for a moment on your past few years at work. Have they been fulfilling?  Have the uncertainties decreased or increased?  Are you more or less optimistic about realizing your potential? If you don’t like your answers, one of the … Continue reading

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When you smile at the universe, the universe smiles back

I used to think of the universe as a rational, uncaring machine. If this, then that. And given that our world, never mind our universe, is so large, I couldn’t see how we could make much of a practical difference. … Continue reading

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25 books that changed me

When you think about it, a book is a truly magical thing. For the cost of a lunch, you can have an experience that can change your life. And that experience can be made even more profound when the book … Continue reading

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Taming the hamsters in my head

“Are you okay, darling?” My wife heard me cursing to myself in the shower and she was concerned. It was a normal day and a normal shower. But I was so busy thinking about things that made me angry that … Continue reading

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Changing the habit of hurrying

Do you ever feel you don’t have time to do the things you really want to do? Or you’re so busy doing that there’s no time for enjoying? Do you ever say, wistfully, “Where did the time go?” I used to … Continue reading

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Touching the treadmill

Are there things you want to get better at but haven’t made much progress? Here are a few from my life list: Play the piano Speak another language Dance ballroom-style Do yoga (and have the lean, flexible body that comes … Continue reading

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