Author Archives: John Stepper

About John Stepper

Driving adoption of collaboration and social media platforms at Deutsche Bank. (Opinions here are my own.)

How to love your job (even if you hate it)

When I asked her “What’s the best part of your job?” she looked at me wistfully and said “Nothing, really.” She was smart, young, and creative, but somehow her spark had gone out. She told me she didn’t want it … Continue reading

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Discovering your purpose

Ask a roomful of people whether they think networking is important and everyone will knowingly nod. Now, ask them for the purpose of their network. Crickets. Most will be thinking “Networks have a purpose?” or, worse, “I don’t know, I’m … Continue reading

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What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

For most of my career, I’ve been afraid. As I approach 50, though, that fear is being replaced by something else. Not quite confidence and certainly not peace. It’s more a sense of fuck-it-I-need-to-do-something-that-matters-now. Here are 3 stories about fears … Continue reading

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5 gifts for your boss you may have never considered before

A lot of the rhetoric about management, including my own, can come across as pitting us against them. But I’m actually a manager, too. And my boss has a boss. So who’s us and who’s them? Okay, maybe your boss … Continue reading

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Why your boss is a jerk (and what you can do about it)

Complete this sentence: “My boss is a …” Did you say “role model”? Or “true leader”? No. When you start searching the Internet for “My boss is a…,” the most common completions are “bully,” “idiot,” “jerk,” “liar,” “psycho,” “moron,” and … Continue reading

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How to ask for help

If leading with generosity is the best way to build your network, what do you do when you actually want something from someone? How do you reconcile being generous with being needy? I need help all the time. In the … Continue reading

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“How’s the book coming along?”

A difficult conversation with someone who cares about you can help you confront an uncomfortable truth. I’ve been writing a book for the past 18 months. My friends will ask “How’s the book coming along?” I’ll respond with some vague reply … Continue reading

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Becoming a trusted advisor

Have you ever worked with someone you’d call a “trusted advisor”? I mean the kind of person who has a network of close relationships and gets business based on the trust they’ve earned over time. They get paid, of course, … Continue reading

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Guided mastery at work

Imagine you’re afraid of snakes. You don’t just dislike them. You’re so afraid that you can’t even walk on grass for fear a snake might be there. Like other phobias, the fear paralyzes you and the paralysis affects other parts … Continue reading

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A glimpse of rapture, a glimpse of peace

I was walking by myself on a pristine beach in Mexico. It was early morning and the sun hadn’t quite made it’s appearance yet. Looking out to where the expansive gray-blue sky met the grayer, bluer ocean, I could feel … Continue reading

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